Initially, Kids discusses how to emotionally nurture children from birth to adulthood and beyond. Many of the ideas presented are not new but are given a fresh perspective by the use of case studies from Children's Court. The author's findings are consistent with other early childhood research and publications in their strong emphasis on the importance of the early years.

Suggestions for effective parenting are not new but are perhaps timeless: they include communication, love, time and consistent discipline.

Holborow rejects the myth of "quality time" and believes meaningful communication cannot be scheduled.

Most interesting are the case studies. They show that for children, as for adults, actions are often a reaction to context. The author argues that when a child's family life includes factors like plentiful conflict, little affection or time, neglect or abuse, the chances are a reaction will result.

The break-up of families is also examined as a contributing factor to children's unhappiness. Holborow believes those breaking-up are usually "selfish" and asks couples to put the wellbeing of the family before self-interest during separation.

Perhaps the most valuable chapters in Kids are those which address the hard issues for parents - drugs, suicide and police arrests. In relation to drugs the message is clear: do not overreact or you can make it worse. For example, treating your child like a major drug addict when they have only experimented may completely close communication channels.

Another useful piece of advice for parents is to treat a crisis, like the arrest of their child, as an opportunity for making family changes.

The importance of listening to children is reiterated. Of course external factors are also often relevant and the book does address the issues of appearance and the influence of friends.

Interestingly, when discussing choosing legal representation and facing court, Holborow tells readers that the duty solicitor will do a "far better job" than any "silky-tongued, pin-striped blow-in."

Overall, this is a book seeking to answer "What makes kids happy?" and it includes responses to that question given by young Australians.

The best thing about Kids is that a retired magistrate is using her experience and public profile to educate parents. It's a far more valuable use of time than playing golf.

Kids - Loving for Life is now only available for limited release. If you are interested in obtaining a copy or copies, please email: cliff@fobwatch.com.au